This week I’m introducing my husband Brian Lashley. Please appreciate him as I do.
In the words of John Cleese from Monty Python: “And now for something completely different.” That’s right folks, the column that has been helmed by my wife for the last three years will be written by the dad this week in honor of Father’s Day. I hope I live up to the expectations you all hold.
I would like to begin with a little shout out to Gena. She is a wonderful wife and mother. She is loving, giving, loyal, and my best friend. We have been blessed with two beautiful children and I cannot imagine my life any differently. In life, people seem to struggle with their purpose. I am fortunate that I no longer have to ask that question. In 2002 the question began getting its answer when I met Gena. In 2004 we married and moved to Chester in 2005. In 2006 the second part of the answer was delivered, slight pun intended, with Ben’s birth. In 2010 the question was fully answered when I held Lily for the first time. My purpose in life is to be a husband and father, and in Ben’s words “I’m true.”
There is nothing better than the memories I have as a father so far. Memories of helping Ben change his first Transformer from car to a robot, the countless readings of “Brown Bear, Brown Bear;” the hours of Curious George (it’s a guilty pleasure as well), building with Legos, and playing with Lightening McQueen and Mater till I thought their wheels would fall off. His first fall and boo boo and the first time he said “I love you daddy.” All are moments I cherish and wouldn’t trade for anything.
Now I’m building great and different memories with Lily. I have to say there’s no better way to start the day than her grabbing hold of my neck and giving me a big hug and kiss on the cheek. Her recent exposure to chocolate pudding is a picture in my head I will never forget, and her constant discovery to this world is awesome to watch. She loves to crawl all over me when I’m in the floor with her, but rarely sits still long enough to actually play with anything other than Ben, her favorite toy. Her obsession with shoes at 16 months is hilarious; that’s right, don’t get between this girl and her shoes.
In all, being a dad has brought a joy to my life I never expected. I was unsure how I would be as a dad, as I think most of us are. You learn as you go and hope that you don’t cause any permanent damage. I feel I’ve done pretty well so far and hope to be able to continue the trend. It’s a job with great benefits and pay, not with money or vacation, but with a child that loves you. This Father’s Day get on the floor and enjoy what gives you this day to celebrate, your kids.