While attending high school I took a class in Latin. One phrase that I remembered is vestis virum reddit (pronounced westis wirum red dit) meaning clothes make the man.
The reasons this phrase stood out to me then is the same reason it stands out to me now; with the proper exterior anyone can con someone into believing in an image.
Entertainers do it all the time. Motown spent millions on creating images and we never knew that Whitney Houston’s was a beautifully crafted image. We blamed Bobby Brown until we saw the reality show “Being Bobby Brown.”
Even in the Bible - James 2:1-3 mentions how we treat people based on their appearance. My brethren, have not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory, with respect of persons. For if there come unto your assembly a man with a gold ring, in goodly apparel, and there come in also a poor man in vile raiment; and ye have respect to him that weareth the gay clothing, and say unto him, sit thou here in a good place; and say to the poor, stand thou there, or sit here under my footstool.
We often wonder how we get our ourselves into trouble; we equate intelligence with a person dressed a certain way or driving an expensive vehicle.
Men, you date women that you have never seen without their weave, wig, contacts, nails, or Spanx later to become angry because you realize she is “high maintenance.” Some of you, in the beginning, are not sure that you are dating a woman.
Women, we fall prey to men with expensive cars and clothes only to find out he is lacking the fundamental quality of intelligence, class, and commitment (there is nothing like an old fool).
A family member often told that I dated “ugly” men. Therefore, they saw fit to set me up on a blind date. He was handsome, came from (they assumed) a nice family and drove a pretty spiffy SUV. The evening consisted of him taking me to his parent’s home (keep in mind that he was around 35 years old) and offering me a beverage from their refrigerator. His parents were out of town traveling abroad. When I asked him where his parents were traveling he said England. Later in the conversation France came up. I said to him so your family is traveling across Europe. As the conversation progressed I realized that he assumed that England and France were one and the same. Later that evening it began to rain. I mentioned that we are getting quite a deluge. He asked me what language I was speaking. He assumed (with his pea size brain) since I mentioned Europe he assumed the word deluge was a foreign language.
Enough said. There is no car, suit, home, or money that can be substituted for substance and intelligence.
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