I’m told I have the music turned up too loud when I am driving by myself. Linda says she can hear me turn in the driveway, not from the sound of my wheels on our gravel driveway, but by the music blasting from the inside of my car. But I was born and raised in an age of loud music. A time when music was made to be listened to loud and a time when some of the old rock stars were deaf as a post.
Some time ago, with music blasting, while traveling down West Hundred Road, I slid up behind a minivan at a traffic light. The music stole my attention as I mouthed the words to an old Cole Porter song, I mean “Stairway to Heaven.” Because my car is too small to allow me to play air guitar, starring at the van stopped ahead of me was my only option.
Have you seen the latest family craze in which young families place a sticker on the back window of their SUV or minivan with a white silhouette of a family – dad, mom, junior 1 and 2 and maybe a dog or cat? It’s a cute way to show pride in your family. It’s like getting an announcement of your honor student in the newspaper. It’s like buying a picture and caption in the Village News (shameless plug) when your child graduates from high school or college.
Pride in one’s family is something innate, it’s in our DNA. That’s one of the reasons we attend our kid’s ballgames, art shows, plays or attend parent’s night at school. We want to show our child we care. When we show our child we care, they want to please us and will do well to make us happy and just maybe, like my puppy, Gypsy, know they will be rewarded for good deeds and behavior. No bacon treat but a hug and a pat on the back.
The incentive goes both ways, consider yourself, too. Mom and Dad can also travel the good behavior highway. Most of us sometimes forget our good manners.
So you raise your child the best you can and they turn out pretty darn good; a few bumps in the road, a speeding ticket here, a curfew violation there, but after they grow up and get out on their own you sit back and say, you know, I didn’t do such a bad job after all.
It makes me wonder that as a son or daughter grows and maybe the son begins to tower over his father do parents change their family silhouette or if a son or daughter leaves home to get married, do you remove them from the stick-on? Grandchildren could be a problem. If you have three children and they have significant others and have three children, a family could potentially have 17 characters spread across their back window. And, what about puppies?
Sunday is Mother’s Day and mom is probably the one who stuck the Flat Stanley family on her car. Mothers and fathers are proud of their family, but mom with her nurturing demeanor want to shout to the world about her family, at least inside her soul. She has been responsible for raising not only the kids but dad too. And, she used the incentive programs, golden rule and many other tool in her mommy toolbox.
Syndicated columnist Byan Golden said, “Your mother tried to teach you some valuable lessons. Moms have a unique ability to impart essential wisdom. Unfortunately, most of us were too young to really appreciate their value. Mother’s Day is a great time to review the following advice you got when you were a kid.
You can be whatever you want to be
You have no limitations. The whole world is open to you. Your future is ahead of you. You can accomplish whatever you set your mind to. It’s ok to dream.
Be nice to your friends and they will be nice to you
People respond to the way you treat them. If you are mean and selfish, no one will want to play with you. Share your toys and don’t be a bully. Be considerate of the feelings of others.
Do your homework and you will get good grades
Success takes work. If you don’t put in the effort, you won’t reap the rewards. Those who work hard will succeed.
Clean your room now
Get things done today and you won’t have to worry about them. If you let things pile up, it will be difficult to catch up.
You can play once your chores are done
Get your work done before you take a break. Then you can relax and have a good time.
Stay in school
If you don’t get an education, your opportunities will be limited. Don’t drop out of school. The more you learn, the more you benefit.
Sticks and stones will break your bones but names will never hurt you
It doesn’t matter what other people say. Don’t allow others to upset you. There will always be mean people. Don’t pay attention to them.
Don’t waste your time
Time goes by very fast. Don’t wait to pursue your dreams.
Be thankful for what you have
There are many who are not as fortunate as you. Be grateful for your home and family. It doesn’t matter what someone else has.
Whining is annoying. If you have something to say, say it. If you complain all the time, no one will want to listen to you.